Employer: We encourage out-of-the-box thinking
ADHDers: Wait, there was a box?
Employer: Please follow the established process
October is ADHD awareness month.
Ever been in a similar convo, yes or no ⬇️
P.S. I don't think any of my previous employers have taken part in ADHD awareness month.
You?
To ADHDers every deadline means panic.
(and it's not about imposter syndrome)
I lived this in corporate for years.
The fear was always there.
It was not the deadline.
Or the actual work.
But exposure.
That I didn't manage my time well and waited for panic to kick in before I can even start.
Then I realised that ADHD needs urgency to unlock action.
🧠 No urgency = no dopamine = no action
Not unreliable.
Just ADHD.
Things shifted a bit for me when I started naming this:
"My brain needs urgency to function."
I now lean on these supports:
💜 Fake deadlines (earlier, real consequences though)
💜 External accountability (tell another human)
💜 Body doubling (virtual sessions is fine)
The panic didn't vanish.
But the fear of being exposed did.
Let's not take deadline panic as a character flaw.
P.S. What's the fear underneath YOUR deadline panic?
Late-identified ADHD? You were too good to spot.
(that's not a compliment at all)
After years of trying to not be "difficult", I get it.
We learned early:
Be quiet
Don't complain
Make it easy for everyone else
That wasn't "mature for your age".
That was masking.
The "good girl" checklist:
→ Never asked for help (that's needy)
→ Never took up space (that's selfish)
→ Never showed struggle (that's messy)
The result?
You disappeared from view.
For ADHDers socialized to please, "good" meant invisible.
And invisible doesn't get diagnosed.
One way to start unmasking safely:
💜 Name one need today without justifying it.
Being "good" was safe but it wasn't you.
It's time to introduce yourself again.
ADHDers, I burnt out on a high-profile project.
Again 😿 (late-identified neurokin get me)
This was the available support:
Healthcare: "See you in 3 years"
Gov scheme: "We’ll call in 30 weeks"
Coaching: "We’ve got you for £150/hour"
So I qualified as an ADHD coach and
I left my career to solve ADHD support 🤩
🎉 Today I'm officially Co-Founder at Viberie 🎉
The virtual ADHD coaching system that's 💯 you.
🫣No pre-defined courses to suffer through.
🫣No generic tips when you’re trying to cope.
🫣No strategies that don’t work for our neurotype.
It will be personal flows, built entirely on:
💜 What you want to achieve
💜 What matters to you NOW
💜 What works for your goals
So here I am together with my husband Yavor I
Building the support we needed but never had.
Your ADHD "came" late.
Your support doesn't have to.
Drop a 🍀 for good luck pleeeease
If you’re an adult ADHDer, check it out.
ADHDers, your mask just slipped.
(and no, it wasn’t that obvious)
Do you relate to this exact panic:
You're mid-conversation.
The brain disconnects.
Words evaporate.
Face frozen.
💜 races.
"This is it, I’m found."
"They know I'm a fraud."
I’ve been there lots, it used to undo me.
But here's what's actually happening:
🧠 Masking burns 70% more cognitive resources
🧠 That brain hit capacity, it’s not incompetence
🧠 The mask slip means you're an ADHDer
Fear makes us feel like:
→ Everyone can see through me
→ My cover is blown forever
→ They'll think less of me
In reality?
Most people are too busy in their own heads.
+
Simple lines can help recover quickly.
Here’s what to try next time the mask slips:
🤫 "I lost my train of thought"
🤫 "Let me think about that"
🤫 "My brain just glitched"
ADHDers I talk to use these every day.
So what if it showed how much you’ve been carrying?
Your mask slipping = your brain craving air.
Send to someone who needs to hear this 🚀
With ADHD, it’s never just "enough".
Why? You keep moving the goal post.
Be honest, does this feel like you?
Achieves goal → "Not enough"
Raises bar → "Still not enough"
Pushes hard → "Never enough"
Burns out → "I'm not enough" 😿
For ADHDers, "enough" doesn't exist without a definition.
🧠 dopamine lack means you get relief at best
🧠 comparison trap says everyone’s ahead
🧠 RSD means feedback is heartbreak
Redefining success starts with:
💜 Clarity
💜 Direction
💜 Acceptance
One way to start today is simply ask:
And set effort accordingly.
Define your finish line.
Or burnout will draw it for you.
Late-identified ADHD = you achieved against odds.
(now imagine what you can do with support)
You built a life.
Despite no diagnosis.
Despite no community.
Despite no understanding.
And that's proof that you can.
Now add this:
→ focus on goals and not struggles
→ a coach in your corner
→ self-compassion
What would you dare reach for with actual support?
Late-identified ADHD = expert-level player finally gets a controller.
"Work accommodations help ADHDers".
(even if you get looks 👀)
Early in 2025 I started to accommodate myself more.
Can you guess what I was called out on with these:
🫣 "Ooh love your toys"
🫣 "Are you listening to music?"
🫣 "Must be nice to work in pajamas"
🫣 "I booked over your focus time slot"
🫣 "Take a break if you like, I've got a lot on"
The current reality is:
→ Traditional work structures feel like swimming upstream
→ We've been conditioned to hide what helps us
→ "Normal" became synonymous with "right"
I know you are reluctant to disclose your neurotype at work for fear of being labelled as difficult or incapable.
I hear this from late-identified ADHDers all the time.
And only 31% of us feel safe to do so (Augmentive, 2023).
But here's what I need you to know:
Everything shifts when you start supporting your brain.
Your productivity
Your creativity
Your esteem
Accommodations don't give advantages.
They remove barriers.
Barriers to your actual capacity.
You don't need permission to support your neurotype.
Today's list, late-identified AuDHD edition
(where coping skills have coping skills)
Pull Heroes of Might and Magic 3 the board game
Admit I💜admiring the art more than playing
Wonder if it's ADHD or me not great with follow-up
Realize I've been seeing it as a quirk for 30+ years
Look for ways to get my screen time down...
By researching board games from PC games I love
...for 3 hours